Is he a player....married or gay?

he has always worked long hours, he's never taken me out at night just lunch once a week if that but we stay for hours...he is an independent contractor. We just, with in the last two months, expressed our interest in each other after 6+ years...I have disappeared twice since our meeting...he has never been to my house nor I to his...our schedules don't permit it and we live 30+ minutes away and get home after 7pm most nights. He wants intimacy but tells me he is married to his profession I tell him that I am focused on myself for the first time and don't want to be deterred by a ual tryst. Are we both blowing smoke...? He is really special. He says he is not sleeping with anyone and that he is single but I find it hard to believe, he is a male...sorry guys but really! He says that he spends all of his free time with his sisters - he's latin and they are REALLY close...or with his co-workers homes with their families; but come ON he is a male....sorry again. Please advise